Violence

I find myself feeling fortunate and unfortunate on this particular topic. I feel fortunate to be a survivor of the violence perpetrated against me, and yet this is also unfortunate. The unfortunate politics behind violence is that the abuser is always right, the abusee is always at fault and wrong. It seems ridiculous but this is what I noticed time and time again in my life as I tried to break the cycle and get free of the violence in my life. This is also true of every relationship I have with those that created the violence against me. The violence was done by people that politically speaking should have taken a different stance, but they went ahead and they did these things anyway. We find the stances on violence varies depending on the political circumstances. Deciding that genocide occurred in Armenia would piss off Turkey and is a bad political move. It's also not the place of congress but I leave that to my little roo to discuss. It is also bad politics to decide to go into Bosnia, which is why it took so long. Rwanda, which is why so many people died, and of course Iraq which is why that is now a quagmire. Politics and violence often go hand in hand, but who is really managing the other? No one seems to know and in the mean time the situation gets worse and worse. I know for my own life I will never be the same again, but what's a girl to do?